Is being in love a little too much work than you had imagined? Is it difficult to get things done without thinking about him atleast five times in half an hour? Well then maybe you’re on the verge of becoming a little too over involved. It isn’t a bad thing or wrong by any standard of measure, but it might get a little suffocating for your boyfriend.
How do you know if you’re being clingy/needy/protective?
1. If you’ve called him more times than you’ve checked Newsfeed on Facebook
If your call log looks like a diary in which you’ve scribbled his name from start to end then we have a problem. Thinking about your boyfriend because something reminds you of him or just simply to check in is awesome but acting as a human alarm clock that goes off every 10 minutes is not very comforting.
2. If your Facebook search bar’s history reads of his and his entire family/friend circle’s name
We all stalk our boyfriends on Facebook from time to time but if you’ve been keeping a close eye on his friend’s profiles to know if he’s in any of their pictures, to get a location check to ensure he isn’t lying about being at work or even stalking his female friends profiles to see if they are in touch with him is unhealthy.
3. Checking his phone like it’s your own.
You’re curious, all girls are. What lies in a boy’s phone, especially your boyfriends phone is what all girls imagine but it’s better left at just that, imagination. Picking up his phone and browsing through his Whatsapp, call log and Facebook messenger is not helping your insecurities in any way, it’s just feeding them.
4. Bombarding his social media with your presence.
We aren’t 15 anymore. It’s not a necessity to publicize your relationship by changing your relationship status on Facebook or uploading pictures on Instagram and tagging him, posting random things on his wall. If it’s out of plain need of being cheesy and he’s all on board then get as cute as you want. But if his parents are on Facebook, posting ‘ I love you baby’, on his wall is not going to go down well with him.
5. Fighting about not being able to meet everyday.
If your relationship is a new budding little flower, with too much love to stay apart then I’m sure you can’t get your hands off each other and end up spending the whole day together. But once you’ve crossed the honeymoon period it’s time to settle in. Fighting about meeting everyday is not pleasant for anyone. If you meet everyday all the time then what do you have to talk? You can’t sink into your boyfriends life, you have one all on your own.
6. Creating a scene when there is a girl in his close group of friends
Jealousy is a bitch. But making a big deal about hanging out with girls is just going to push him away. These girls have been in his life for a while but everyday he chooses to love you, so you should push those insecurities away and trust him. It’s hard and it might break your heart, but if you don’t, chances are, you might loose him.
7. If you need constant reassurance that he does indeed love you
Don’t ask him to describe to you in detail how much he loves you every single minute. Instead ask him to tell you about his day, ask him what his take is on net neutrality, ask him where he wants to travel, ask him his dreams, hopes and his take on religion, don’t ask him to be cute. Ask him to be real, because that comes once in a lifetime.
8. If you talk to his parents more than he does.
His mom is on your speed dial and you’re an active part of all family decisions, then you’ve gone a few steps too far.
9. ‘You went there with her? But that’s our place’.
No a public footpath, a beach or even a cafe, not owned by you, is not ‘our place’. If he needs to walk on a road with friends and that happens to be the street you first met on, you can’t expect him to abandon roads all together and fly like Superman to his destination.
10. If you get pissed when he spends time with his guy friends.
He needs to let out some steam and it’s gotta be with his buddies. If you’re the kind who wants to be at every outing, no matter who he goes with, it’s time to take a good, hard look in the mirror.
11. You immediately get offended when he compliments another girl
If you can’t stand the thought of him even noticing another girl’s sense of dressing or that his female friend got a haircut, you’re straying in the grey area of possessive.
12. Don’t like it when he dresses up
He’s already got you, so what’s the use of dressing up right? WRONG. There are a hundred reasons to look good and none of them are for another chick to notice him.
If you’re exhibiting any of these signs, you know it’s time for a good old chat with yourself.