You know, in a patriarchal society such as ours, most people do not like women. They like certain ideas associated with women. They don’t like mothers, they like the idea of an ideal and sacrificing mother. They don’t like daughters, they like the idea of a devoted daughter. They don’t like wives, they like the idea of an uncomplaining and chaste wife. The minute a girl or a woman steps outside this idea and begins to do things that don’t fit this ideal, they are stigmatized, ostracized, ridiculed, and punished.
Allow me to give a simple example. An Indian bride is expected to be coy and silent, putting her head down, filled with laaj, sharam and lihaaz at her wedding. The minute people find her laughing, enjoying and god forbid dancing at her OWN wedding, they collectively lose their calm.
A video of a happy bride dancing at her own wedding in front of her husband, who seems happy too, went viral on Twitter and immediately, there was a section of people who started to shame her. They called her “shameless” and some even went to the extent of calling her dance “mujra”.
This should be stop 🤐 pic.twitter.com/j0cLbryXH1
— Professor Sahab (@ProfesorSahab) June 14, 2022
If I see such shameless acts in any wedding, I just come back after dinner without paying any shagun or wishing the couple. Because I know their marriage will not last.
— Vikrant 🫂 (@veg_momo) June 14, 2022
Kyun bhai sahab https://t.co/WcCY8AzxWP
— जय Bhartiya ❇️ (@wallaAlhabiba) June 14, 2022
M i the only one who gets so uncomfortable watching this cringe stuff 😭 that i can’t even watch it completely in one go
— Ruuu 🇮🇳 (@Ruuu_Dra) June 14, 2022
Sacchi .. I would be so embarrassed if my bride did this… Its downright cheap
— Aashish Ghag (@aashish_ghag) June 14, 2022
Over excited to marry.. miss the grace with which a bride entered the mandap.. abhi toh aisa lagta hai ke movie banane aaye hai
— his_XLNC🇮🇳❤ (@_XLNC) June 14, 2022
But thankfully, there was another section of people who slammed such a regressive mentality. The bride isn’t doing something illegal, she isn’t doing something that’s hurting anybody, and her husband doesn’t seem to have a problem, so what is your problem, bhai?
Jab dulha khus toh logo ko kya problem hai har baat me judge Krna thik adat nahi hai.
— MODIfied PRINCESS (@Jagat___Janani) June 14, 2022
Wo apni shadi mein Khush h tumhe kya Bhai
— Shambhavi shreya (@Shambhavishrey1) June 14, 2022
Just why? Let her enjoy, tera kya ja raha ha!
— Mishti13🌙 (@MishtiSkywalker) June 15, 2022
Frusted middle class, jo apne ko dusre se adhik successful aur khush dikhna chahat hai !
— सुमित गरोडिया (@sumitgaroriya) June 14, 2022
Is she doing any thing against law or anything which is not good for the society?? It’s her wish , how she enjoys in her wedding. What’s the issue ??
— Aadi_Anadi (@MahakalKedar) June 14, 2022
People having fun at their own weddings should stop?
Why?
— komal 🤸🏽♀️ – check pinned tweet! (@komal_42) June 15, 2022
God forbid a woman is happy at her own wedding and these people will choke on their non existent foreskin to the point where people like me want to slap the teeth out of them https://t.co/k7rcoF6Lqa
— Qasim Hasnain (@IndiedreamzZ) June 16, 2022
Male ego getting hurt seeing a female enjoy and be happy at their own wedding. Lol. Classic https://t.co/CJpqDyjHio
— Mithila Prabhudesai (Dr.Taylor's Version) 🧣 (@aMYTHila_15) June 15, 2022
Desi women are practically groomed for marriage since childhood yet they can't even be seen happy on their wedding day https://t.co/eBG4um9WTU
— Sam🪐 (@69WINDOWSILL) June 15, 2022
The bride is happy, the groom is happy.. they're enjoying themselves and here you are out on twitter fuming over other people 💀💀 In logo se ladki khush dekhi hi nai jati https://t.co/XSeGZaaPHq
— Bels 🌾🪩 (@CorneliaConey) June 15, 2022
this judgemental indian uncles are so used to seeing forced marriages and depressed brides that they cant handle seeing a women actually being happy at her OWN wedding 🤣 https://t.co/T7HyBxOx8K
— ًsy (@flrtruto) June 15, 2022
in the SAME wedding you'll see drunk men dancing while being half naked and no one will say ONE word but dare a woman be happy in her own wedding, indians are so fucking annoying https://t.co/W8TrnN3I49
— lover🏳️🌈|| dua lipa's bikini (@_kirbyisgod_) June 15, 2022
Half of the world’s problems would resolve if people could just be happy and respectful of other people’s happiness.