16 Reasons Breaking Up With A Best Friend Is Way Worse Than Breaking Up With A Partner

Best friends.

Your first positive brush with the world outside the warm embrace of your parents which took you in the same way as your parents did. You were comfortable with them as much as you’d be with your family or maybe more. They were family to you.

But then something happened. Something snapped. You guys drifted apart.

Have you had a friend who has become someone you used to know?

Then you’ll definitely agree that breaking up with them was worse than breaking up with your partner. The pain is much bigger than breaking up with someone with whom you’ve been romantic because when you break up with them, you had your best friend to fall back on.

Here are a few things I went through when I lost my best friend and I guess you have too.

1. You grew up together

You don’t even remember when was the first time you met because they were always there as far as your memory goes. The earliest memory that you possess of two of you is that of laughing uncontrollably rolling in the sand in a park without any knowledge of what friendship even means.

 

2. You knew too many secrets of each other

You couldn’t help but be together all the time, be it school, tuitions, classes, you did everything together and there was nothing the two of you didn’t share with each other.

 

3. You were constantly dependent on each other

They were the support system of your life and you turned to them in your good times and more importantly in your bad times. You trusted them with your life and they were always there to catch you when you fell.

 

4. You shared the same set of friends/enemies for such a long time

You had the same group of friends at school and at the classes because there was no way you two could be separated. You came one at the price of two. Even if there was a distance in between, you made sure it felt like nothing and managed to make your new friends their friends too.

 

5. You spent nights and days just chatting up

When the two of you were together you didn’t need another person to voice their opinions because they virtually didn’t matter. You could chat up with him/her all day and all night and it still won’t be enough for you.

 

6. You shared quite a few crushes

It’s not possible that the two of you haven’t had a crush on the same boy or the same girl in high school. You must’ve spent thousands and thousands of hours discussing them and sharing your fantasies.

 

7. You saw each other get dumped

After all the crushes and everything, we do fall for the real thing once in a while and fall out of it too. But they were always there to catch you in their arms as soon as you were about to fall into the pit of tears.

 

8. You knew each other better than yourselves

They knew you better than anyone else, even yourself. And still they stuck around because they liked what they saw in you and you liked what you saw in them.

 

9. Now, you avoid each other at our mutual friends party

Now if ever you see each other randomly or end up at the same party your mutual friend threw, you awkwardly avoid each other and try not to even bump into each other because pleasantries aren’t something you wanna go through because you think the two of you deserve more than that but it’s not possible to go beyond that.

 

10. Now, you change the channels whenever “your song” is on

That song you sang to at the top of your voices all the time? It’s no more bearable for you and even if it brings back the good memories, there are more unanswered questions that hurt you than the bad memories.

 

11. Now you don’t have a go-to person

Now it’s hard finding someone who’ll listen to you and not judge you for anything and could give you legit solutions or maybe be as weird as you.

 

12. Now you don’t even wish each other on birthdays

You pick up the phone, dial their only number you have which you procured from a mutual friend and hope that it’s the right number and half way through the rings you cut the call.

 

13. Now, you don’t have each other to judge everyone

Now the only person you judge is yourself with no one to telling you that it has to stop somewhere and whose words would actually make an impact on you.

 

14. Now you have a hard time trusting people

You cannot even try trusting someone as much as you had trusted your best friend. It happens only once as they say.

 

15. Neither of you knows what really went wrong

There are questions and answers but they don’t match together.

 

16. He/she was the only one who wasn’t supposed to leave

Everyone leaves. But the one person you expected to stay with you as long the either of you lived, was them.

A broken person is harder to mend than a broken heart.

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