16 Things That Should Be On Your Search List Instead Of Looking For A Soulmate

A soulmate.

We are at a point in our lives, where we start looking for someone or have fantasized about having a person in our life who is made just for us. But you might want to rethink and accept that the concept itself is faulty because we put unrealistic expectations on the people in our lives to give us more than they can.

Here are a few things you should look within another person and yourself instead of a soulmate, and maybe become someone’s soulmate.

1. Search for patience within yourself and others

Patience is a virtue of the thoughtful, and it should be possessed by everyone to be happier and more understanding of others.

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2. Be attracted to intelligence which will inspire you

The one thing everyone should be in the quest of is knowledge. There is nothing that’ll help you become a better person and take you higher than the awareness of your surroundings at a perceived level. One should strive to surround themselves with people that have more knowledge and constantly be a student of nature.

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3. Look for a fulfilling career and accept the one you have as a stepping stone of getting there

There’s nothing more fulfilling than doing what you love. Being good at something and having that as your deemed profession should be the dream and everything you come across will teach you something that’ll come to use when you reach there.

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4. Search for confidence within yourself

To attain anything, you’ll have to take the first step. You cannot rely on wallowing and expecting others to spoon feed you. For being able to put your foot forward, you need confidence.

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5. Look for empathy for the people who are less fortunate than you

To understand the things that are happening to you, you need to learn that you’re not the only one. That is called sympathy. Taking sympathy to the next level is being empathetic. Empathy is feeling pain in another’s suffering, which makes you more aware and understanding to other’s pain and enables you to take steps for their betterment which in turn make you a better person.

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6. Be on a quest for joy, it matters more than you think

Look into a mirror, see yourself smile. What do you see?

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7. Search for freedom from all the chains that are holding you back

Freedom. Fly away in the ever expanding skies of your mind and tell me, what do you see?

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8. Search for flaws in yourself instead of finding them in others

We are not perfect. Nobody can be. That doesn’t mean we nurture our flaws like one nurtures a baby. We should always try to be the better version of us.

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9. Look for strength and belief in your own capabilities so that you can do the same for others

To be able to believe in others and love them, you need to do the same for yourself.

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10. Find a purpose for you to chase in life

A purpose in life is what you need to find instead of a soulmate. You’ll eventually find a soulmate in this quest because you’ll respect their purpose.

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11. Look for less instead of demanding more

The more you desire, the less you get. Desire for less in life, you’ll get more than you need.

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12. Look for gentleness in other’s eyes

The people who look at you gently are the people who love you the most. Keep them close.

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13. Look for productivity instead of waiting for the world to take you up

Get up and get going. You cannot expect the world to wait for you to arrive.

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14. Search for forgiveness if you’ve made mistakes

Seek forgiveness from those who you’ve hurt and be forgiving to those who’ve hurt you. Holding grudges has helped nobody.

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15. Search for a way you can expand your mind

Look for something that gives you peace. It could be anything from reading a book to going on a hike. Do something that consumes you to a meditative level.

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16. Search for those friends who will be there with you in your bad times as well as the good ones

We live in a society which has no place for friends. We have specific designations in our priority list – family, boyfriends, girlfriends, bosses, colleagues, and so on. We don’t really put friends high on that list although they are the ones who come running whenever you need them. Thank them for being in your life and keep them close to your heart.

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So many treasures to find.

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