10 Reasons Why Back Stabbers Don’t Deserve A Second Chance

“Some things just couldn’t be protected from storms. Some things simply needed to be broken off…Once old thing were broken off, an amazingly beautiful thing could grow in their place.” ― Denise Hildreth Jones

Let me be very clear before you start talking about ‘everyone deserves a second chance’. I am not talking about honest mistakes, misconceptions and one-time unconscious slip, which wasn’t meant to hurt anyone. I’m talking about people who know the consequences of their actions, and still do it.

Everyone has been wronged at least once in their life. Being betrayed and disappointed is not the hardest part. The hardest part is to forgive and forget what happened and what the other person did to you. You might think (or other people make you think) that everyone deserves another chance! People change! Miracles happen! They really mean it this time!

A lot of people might have told you that holding a grudge is not healthy and hence you should give the person his second chance. Get one thing very clear in your head. Holding a grudge and giving the person a second chance are not related to one another. You can let go and hold no grudge without giving anyone a second chance to make you repent again.

Here is why any backstabber doesn’t deserve a second chance.

1. Sometimes, the first chance is perfectly laid out for them.

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If someone slipped, did something unknowingly or made an honest mistake, then the idea of second chance sounds reasonable as they didn’t mean to hurt you. They just made a mistake, like everyone does.

But, for people, who had the situation in their hands and grasped the opportunity to stab you in the back cannot be trusted ever again. It’s who they are. You really cannot do anything about it.

 

2. People don’t change, your perspective does.

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People might say that they have turned over a new leaf, switched careers or many more things, but the truth is that their basic behaviour never changes. One in a million person will actually realise his mistake and amend his lifestyle to rectify it. It’s highly unlikely. This is life, not Bollywood.

 

3. It’s not the circumstance… always. It’s them!

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It’s their basic behaviour. The situation didn’t make them do it, they chose to do it. Although, blaming everything on circumstance is their ultimate escape. Always keep that in mind.

 

4. They say they aren’t mature enough, but it’s really common sense.

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How difficult is it to understand that breaking someone’s trust can hurt the other person. It’s not rocket science. They will come and tell you that they didn’t know what they were doing but you know the person well enough to understand if they are pulling wool over your eyes again.

 

5. Because the first time shows who they are.

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Unless you have known them for long and know exactly what they were going through when they did this, don’t even consider jumping in that pit again. This is the ‘getting to know them’ moment and you should learn from it.

 

6. They are always going to let you down.

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They cannot stand up for anyone ever. They have lied and spoken things behind your back. You really think you can rely on such people?

 

7. They don’t regret anything.

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You can sense every time a person genuinely comes and says sorry when he realises his mistake. But, people who have the audacity to lie to your face and then defend themselves cannot be trusted with a sorry. They don’t think they did anything wrong. I think that answers all your questions.

 

8. If you trust them and they fail you again, it’s your fault, not theirs.

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You won’t have anyone to blame or anything to walk away from. You got your message first time, loud and clear and you chose to ignore it. It will be totally on you.

 

9. They are not worth it.

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You spending days trying to fight your inner voice on weather to trust on let go of the other person who lied to you, or cheated on you, or spoke shit about you behind your back, all for what? For that one person who doesn’t care about you at all. Chuck them out of your life. You have better things to do.

 

10. They won’t move ahead & they won’t let you!

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They are like an anchor which will always drag you back, in your past and never let you move ahead. Cut them lose and set yourself free.

Everyone makes mistakes, but people who ‘only’ make mistakes need to be at one place: out of your life!

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