If you have watched a substantial number of Indian movies that showcase an arranged marriage setup, you can probably guess how things go about. The parents meet each other along with their kids wherein the guy is asked questions about his financial stability and future plans while the girl is usually asked if she knows how to cook among other things.
Well, to some extent, this scenario is still relevant in the current times. However, certain elements of this practice seem to have irked people online.
And one of them is this Twitter user who asked why desi parents let strangers count their daughter’s flaws.
Parents should never put their daughters in a position where any random person can come and reject them based on their complexion, weight, facial features, height, level of ambition, etc. Why would you want someone to have tea with you and count your child's 'flaws? '
— Sanwal Ahmad Zafar (@SanwalZafar) May 7, 2021
Some said that Indian parents aren’t entirely to be blamed. Society is accustomed to the age-old ‘chai paroso’ and ‘chal ke dikhao’ system of spouse hunting which people still follow and we need to denormalize it.
no parents want this, we shouldn’t blame them, This is our society issue that become so called norms and daughter parents Just follow that norm… boy and their parents should take initiative to denormalize that.
— ✿ (@aapsy_matlb) May 7, 2021
Bitter realities if our society,,,,🤧
— Syeda Umama (@Umama86) May 8, 2021
Bitter truth of our sick society
— Professor (@Professor_spy) May 8, 2021
Exactlyyy💯 as a society we need to groww up and denormalize these useless social norms!
— Fyqa.Mujtaba (@FyqaMujtaba) May 8, 2021
This rishta hunt system sucks 😕 I’ve told my parents clearly that I’ll not do that chaye paish kro shrmao chal k dikhao things, a big no for me
— Adv. Arooj Ghumman (@ghumman_arooj) May 8, 2021
However, there were others who opined that men also face rejections.
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oh really, how would you feel if the tables were reversed? i girls parent come to a guys house first and judge him for his complexion, height, weight, ambition, education, social background and above all, how docile and malleable can a guy be?
— . (@Ashrew_) May 9, 2021
Clearly, Twitter was divided.
What is the alternate ? Would you marry someone without even meeting them in person ? Its a societal norm which i think is much better in many ways.
— daniyal azher (@daniyal881) May 8, 2021
IMO, parents should let their kids decide which person possesses the qualities they’re looking for in their partners. What are your opinions on this?