What happens when a woman has a choice between Mr Nice Guy and Mr Black-leather-jacket-on-a-Harley-Hottie? Come on, be honest with me. I know many girls would invariably be tempted by the charms of Mr Harley Hottie. And in the process, the boy-next-door will be… friend zoned.
Yes, I said it. The dreaded F-word.
But I’m here to tell you to that Mr Nice Guy is the boyfriend you really need. Case in point, Telly’s very own Anurag Basu. You know, the male lead in the new Kasautii Zindagii Kay on Star.
As a teenage girl, I didn’t realise it, but the woman I have become can see it plain as day. And I have come prepared to counteract all of your misgivings. He really is the kind of guy you want to date because he is ‘rare’.
1. He will prove that butterflies are real
The fluttering ones in the pit of your stomach. The ones that leave you giddy with happiness. The ones that make you WANT to believe in sappy Bollywood romances and Mills & Boon novels. His smile will do that you. I promise. He will prove that chivalry isn’t dead.
2. He will treat you with respect
A boyfriend like Anurag Basu will genuinely care about you. About your feelings, your ambitions, your dreams. And he’s not afraid to show it too. He will respect your choices and opinions even if he disagrees with some of them. He will respect your boundaries and NEVER ever pressure you into something you don’t feel comfortable with.
3. You don’t have to second-guess his intentions
Because he’s not interested in playing games. He is genuine. His affection for you is as well. What you see is what you get. There are no hidden agendas, no ulterior motives, no deceitful plans and no heartbreaks. This is why he should not be taken for granted.
4. He is emotionally available
This, right here, is what makes him infinitely better than the quintessential bad guy. This is why I’ve stopped believing in the cliché ‘Good Guys always finish last‘. Nice guys will include you in their life, introduce you to their parents and make an effort in getting to know yours. Close your eyes for a minute and try to imagine it. If you had such a boyfriend, how would it feel? He would always show up on time, he would see you home after a date, he would lend a listening ear and stand up for you when you need him to.
5. His looks
He might not sport a sexy stubble but his chocolate boy looks are enough to set hearts aflutter. His eyes will sparkle when he smiles. His face will exude warmth when he’s with you. His hug will always comfort you and make you feel safe. And he will hug you, a LOT. Getting warmed up to the idea already? Wait, there’s more.
6. He will make it work
He says sorry first. When you guys fight, you won’t have to worry about it being the end. Because it won’t be. He will talk to you and both of you will sort it out, reach a compromise. Because you are important to him. That will never be in doubt, that’s a given.
7. The forever kind of person
The boyfriend for the long haul. The one who is stable and reliable. And very dependable. He is not afraid to talk about the future, the one where the two of you are together. He will celebrate your birthday, Holi and Diwali with you. He will come over to set things right when he hears your voice crack over the phone. He will catch all your tears and do everything he possibly can to make sure you never feel that way again.
So, I entreat you. If you’re ever so lucky as to find a boyfriend like Anurag Basu, never let go because he’ll be your favourite hello and hardest goodbye.