New love only lasts so long, and then you crash back into the real people you are, and from as high as we were, it’s a very long fall, and we hit the ground with a thud. ― Marya Hornbacher
The beginning of a relationship is always exciting and full of passion. There is a lot of zest and love flowing all around. Everything is perfect and nothing can go wrong in your life. Basically, it is a state of ecstasy.
It is said that one should not make any big decisions when he/she is extremely happy or sad. Our sense of judgement is clouded by our emotions and we fail to see the obscured reality. So, here are a few signs you need to look for in a fast paced relationship, and then make efforts to slow it down.
1. You are with each other ALL THE TIME
It’s nice to spend time together (obviously), but spending each and every minute of the day together is taking it a bit too far. It might feel nice for now, but this will lead to either of you getting dependent on the other. And once, the honeymoon phase is over, it will start to suffocate you, or your partner.
2. You have planned your future after a few days of dating
You started dating last Saturday, and already have the names of your kids decided. Well, it’s time to take a break and give yourself a reality check (or maybe an intervention).
3. You get depressed when you are apart
If you can’t concentrate on anything when you are not with your partner, and all you want to do is rush back and cuddle, something is seriously wrong with you. Your love life should not affect your profession and should not take away your ‘me time’.
4. You have moved in too quickly
If you have moved in too quickly, you will start discovering things about your partner now, and you might not like all of them. There is still time to take a step back and start afresh.
5. You are too liberal with using ‘I Love You’
You cannot fall in love with someone without knowing what kind of person they are. Don’t misunderstand the feeling of ‘lust’ with love.
6. You have a lot of doubts, too often
If you tend to get anxious and worried about things moving too fast and too much happening all at once, then it’s a big red flag indicating you to slow down and take deep breaths.
7. You are on a rebound
Rebound relationships are always rushed and move way too fast. If everything around you is rushing and you are not thinking before making big decisions, you are definitely on the wrong track.
8. You realize that you are settling for less
When things are rushed into a relationship, it’s a sign that you might be settling for lesser than what you deserve. Observe and make wise choices, and don’t let the fireworks of the first date blind you.
9. You are scaring the other person off
If you can clearly see that your frantic pace is making your partner uncomfortable and uneasy, then it’s time to take some easy & careful steps. You trying to make things go fast will only drain the love out of your relationship.
You can never rush into a healthy relationship. Just have patience, and you will reach where you want.