12 Roles You Play When Your Best Friend Goes Through A Break Up

For some, falling in love is one of the most daring adventures to embark upon. It is almost like taking a chance with their life because they are afraid of getting hurt; because somewhere at the back of their minds they carry the notion that nothing lasts forever; because it is just too scary. But the other side is just too charming to resist and with a cling of the mandir ka ghanta, they enter the space where all they breathe is love.

And just when they almost forget how to live without their partners, the hammer of breaking up slashes their hearts. Ouch, right? If you have a close friend who is going through this painful phase where even in the shape of a curvy bottle they see their exes, switch on your caring mode because this is the time your heartbroken friend needs you even more than they think they do.

So, here are the roles you play when your best friend breaks up with their partner.

1. A deaf friend, when the lava is spewing out

If you are around while the argument is on or, if they are crying their heart out aloud over the phone, leave them alone. Understand their pain, but do not take out your handkerchief right away, because chances are they must be feeling embarrassed of calling it over that loud and in front of you.

 

2. Hug wala friend

Once they have passed that embarrassment phase, you go ahead and give them a jaddoo ki jhappi. As they begin to flow the emotions out, lend a caring shoulder and calm them. Don’t do an extensive discussion until they are comfortable talking about it themselves.

 

3. Philosopher type friend

Once they reveal the big news to you, become a wise yet cool kind of saint; and not at all the kind that insults the concept of relationships and give short term relaxation techniques. Make them realize the reason they broke up for a reason, so that they stop regretting the step they took.

 

4. Book wala friend

Lend them books on tips about how to survive break ups or any kind that is relevant in their case. Best thing would be reading them the most intriguing lines yourself; reading to someone to make them feel better says that you care.

 

5. Granny type friend

If you know someone else’s break up story, then slip into your granny flipflops and share the experiences with them. And if you do not have any experience whatsoever to share, create one that has details more sad than your friend’s break up. A lie that may help them feel strengthened to go through the phase easily is always a good lie. And yes, do not unleash your old break up wounds in front of them or use them as an experience to share. They may think of you being selfish otherwise. Deal with the situation wisely.

 

6. Always cheering up wala friend

Send them texts that make them feel good about themselves.

Leave encouraging one liners for them on the mirrors, fridge, near their pillows or anywhere you want.

When they are too drunk to handle themselves, stay attentive and caring.

Prepare yummy recipes; yummy food is always an almost perfect solution to broken hearts.

They are going to be low on appetite, feed them anyway.

 

7. Sista/Bro type friend

If it is a she, give her a glimpse to the beautiful world of a single girl; show her how joyful and freeing it is to be able to make independent decisions. If it is a boy who is suffering the ache, get your bro fun on. Do anything at all that can help their minds get off their ex.

 

8. Joker type friend

Crack them up with your silly funny jokes.

Watch their favourite sitcom series with them.

Remind them of that one time they were extremely hilarious.

Turn on the hose and spray water all over.

Dance how hens would.

Listen to that over-the-top hilarious song.

 

9. Controlling friend

..keep the phone or I’ll throw the damn thing out the window.”

Keep them engaged in anything that is good for them and that does not have any connection whatsoever with their ex.

 

10. Boxing glove type friend

If their partner tuned out to be a total jerk, do not be afraid of bringing out the swords of words and teach them the lesson they would never forget. If it was a mutual break up, inform the person on the other end to keep it gathered and not contact until at least the storm of emotions in your friend has calmed down.

 

11. Wingman type friend

If you know of a nice single guy/girl who can be just the perfect thing for your friend, then get your wingman cape on and do some setting-them-up. But do this only once you are sure that your friend has crossed the pyjamas and stressed eating phase and is ready to slip into the dating shoes.

Do all of the above but never ever,

12. Play A Rebound

If your best friend is someone you have always secretly admired to be with, never swoop in when she/he is suffering a heartbreak. In times as sucky as these, they expect you to be a friend and not someone they can kiss to forget the past. Such things are always dangerous, they never work out, and friendship also goes in dumps. So do not take their suffering as a chance for you to hit on them. Never.
Even if they don’t use words, they definitely want you to be there with them in their misery holding their hands. And no one but only their best friends like you can rock these roles so don’t think twice when the opportunity to be rainbow in their clouds arise. 🙂

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