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“Life gets complicated somehow.”
Just because homosexuality is illegal in India does not mean that they will stop existing. As many have shared, homosexuality does not come with an ON/OFF button.
We may have people who do not agree with their views, but to outrightly ridicule and traumatise them for being gay or lesbian is not acceptable.
But it does happen. One such woman shared her experience of living in India where homosexuality is still illegal.
The girl posted her candid answer on a Quora thread with the question
“What is it like to be a lesbian in India?”
Our life would have been much easier had people accepted us. Since they don’t, so our life revolves around pretending and hiding.
Life gets complicated somehow. Especially if we go away from our home for further studies and share room with just another girl. It’s easy to hide for some time but can’t hide it all the time. If not everyone then roommate surely will get some hint. Though we don’t fall for every other girl but there are things which make us uncomfortable. And that’s the gray area where we find it difficult to hide.
But then the problem is we can’t control it plus if we confess it then it will leave others uncomfortable around us. Like, the other day my roommate was asking me if her nipples were visible in the top she was wearing. I looked and told her no. But when I said this, I had a smile on my face which I could not control. Now this question was normal that two girls can ask each other but you tell me will she ask the same question the moment she gets to know that I’m a lesbian?
This was just a minute example that I gave but there are many things which make us uncomfortable and people think that either we are weird or insane to smile for no specific reason.
The reason we have to hide and pretend all the time is that society will hate us. The only reason we live in depression most of the times and have suicidal thoughts are that we can’t tell anyone and not everyone is courageous to come out and face the trouble.
The other day my girlfriend wanted to kiss me. I told her to wait for like years till we start living together because if anyone saw us, we will be in jail. Though I consoled her, but here “living together” looks like a distant dream when my parents are worried about getting me married (obviously with a boy). They have no clue about anything.
Accepting the fact that there exists people of a different genre can make our lives much easier. Till then we are hiding and pretending to be straight. The problem is this mask can’t be affixed permanently.
Imagine the difficulties she faces on a regular basis, just because she likes women and not men.
Is it really such a big crime to be jailed for?
H/T – Indian Express
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