13 Things You’re Afraid Of When You Get Into A Relationship With A Friend

They say if you are friends before getting in a relationship then the chances of making it last are higher.

But nobody talks about the anxieties and the pressure that comes when one decides to date his/her friend. It’s actually a risk instead of the gooey, comfortable, warm things the rest of the world talks about and the consequences of this going wrong are much worse than any relationship because if it does not work, you don’t just lose a love interest but you lose a friend with it.

A friend whose friendship you valued more than anything else in the world. Not every relationship is the same agreed, some may successfully be amicable with each other and some other lucky birds actually make it through!

Here are a few things that might make you think again before dating your friend.

1. Either you, he/she, or both of you could be afraid whether the other person will accept your feelings because if not, things can get a bit awkward.

Either of you might not find the other’s answer favourable and the idea of that happening frightens you to the core. And if that does happen, you’re afraid you won’t be able to go back to being friends again.

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2. You become afraid of losing friends if things go downhill between the two of you because friends tend to take sides.

Friends tend to do that. They tend to side with either of the two and the group falls apart and you could be blamed for that, and the thought of that happening makes you want to suppress your feelings.

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3. You’ve been single for too long and you don’t know how your other friends will react to it.

You’ve been single for too long and kind of that person who’d never find anyone to be with and your friends have become comfortable with that idea. You wouldn’t know how they’d take it, if not happily.

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4. You’re afraid the friendship you share with the person will change.

The bond the two of you have shared for such a long time will change and you’ll not have fun arguments but bitter bickerings while giving way to a romantic relationship within a friendship.

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5. You’re scared you’ll end up hurting one of your best friends badly and try to protect him/her from yourself.

You don’t trust yourself with someone’s heart. More so, when it comes to one of the closest people in your life wants to take the risk of having their heart broken by you, you decide that this cannot happen.

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6. You’re afraid of them resenting you if they got to know you any better.

You don’t think they’d like what they’d see if they got to know you any more than they already do. You think they’d not love you like the way they do now if they got through to you as deep as anybody can.

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7. You have some really unrealistic expectations from the idea of a romantic partner.

You have too filmy ideas of a love interest and pop culture has fed you an image which actually nobody will fit in unless you mold it according to the real world.

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8. You keep judging your relationship with your and their past because you know them so well.

You keep judging yourself and him/her on the basis of the past because you know their history as well as your own.

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9. You’re afraid that you trust them too much and are letting yourself go completely.

You think you’d give up too much control of your being to them because you trust them so much that you start being afraid of it.

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10. You’re afraid you’ll disappoint both your families.

If both of your families know the two of you and each other, you feel extra pressure of not disappointing either of the families because they’ve thought from the start that you are going to end up together for a lifetime.

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11. You’re afraid of how dependent you are on him/her.

You like to think of yourself as an independent person but you realise how much you need them in your lives and are scared if a relationship will change things for the worse.

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12. You think there is something inherently wrong with you and you don’t deserve the love people around you bestow on you.

You don’t think you don’t deserve happiness because whenever it comes to you, something comes and takes it away from you.

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13. You don’t think happy endings exist.

You don’t believe anything ends up well including relationships. You deem yourself incapable of being with someone and you don’t want to lose a friend chasing a mythical “happily ever after”.

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But when it’s real, nothing else matters. 🙂

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